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Post by
valundar
Anyone have any brilliant ideas on how to convince the wifey that WOW is a good game and not the
DEVIL
?
I miss healing... and seeing all the changes makes me wanna whip out my
Gavel
and heal some dungeons!
Anyone?
Post by
xaratherus
It's a pastime. Does she ever do anything on her own for fun, have her own hobbies that she does in her alone time? Compare WoW to those.
If that doesn't work, tell her, "Well, it's better than going out to the bars and sleeping around."
Okay. Maybe not that.
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Post by
Quest
You should smack her and tell her to stop being insane and force her to level your next healing char to 80. She'll get attached to it and boom you have a pocket healer.
Remember; stance of dominance! (while out of arms length)
Post by
GenXCub
You should smack her and tell her to stop being insane and force her to level your next healing char to 80. She'll get attached to it and boom you have a pocket healer.
Remember; stance of dominance! (while out of arms length)
Only one way to drop aggro. Feign Death. It's for the best, really. She needs to move on.
Post by
valundar
First, don't make her take a backseat to wow. Take her out, lavish attention and affection upon her.
Involve her in your hobby, ask her to join in, sit with you when you play, explain what you are doing.
Do that and unless there is some major other stuff going on, she should be fine with it.
That will never happen, as she wouldn't play WOW if her life depended on it.
She was addicted to MMO's when they were text based... so she knows she would LOVE to play...
Problem is she knows that she would get addicted... hence she calls it the
DEVIL
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Post by
Squishalot
Wife aggro, an unavoidable part of WoW, and there's not much that any tank, DPS or healer can do to avoid it.
Wife aggro occurs at random intervals, with
greatly
increasing probability the longer you remain in a single location. Time spent in a location is cumulative, and moving to a different room temporarily will reduce the timer by 15 minutes. Completing certain quests awarding you Reputation with Wife has a great chance of reducing the timer by half an hour, with a small chance of resetting the timer entirely.
Tips to deal with wife aggro once triggered:
1) Righteous Defence. Point out that it's a valid means of relaxation time, and that you would find other means of relaxation instead.
2) Misdirect. Point out that she has hobbies too that she likes to waste time on (without you). This ability is the most effective - wife will see that asking you to give up WoW would be like asking her to give up <insert hobby here>.
3) Lay on Hands. Once you've done something for her, she'll be more likely to give you what you want. Mind you, if it was that easy, what are you doing on WoW? :P
Note - these abilities do not work if any daily or weekly quests are outstanding, and require you to be at Honored reputation or higher with Wife.
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Ok, no, seriously. As long as you're not playing *too* much, and not neglecting your family/household responsibilities, then she shouldn't have too much to complain about. If you can show that she's got hobbies that you're not involved in that she does, and you can demonstrate that you spend less time playing WoW, then that's even better.
The problem is, WoW is so stereotypically 'bad' that we need to take the extra step to show that we're not addicted, that it's not the devil, etc. Just do it and save yourself a lot of unnecessary aggro. Keep time on the game to short spurts, unless you've agreed with your wife ahead of time that you'll play for X amount of time, in order to do a raid. Given that most guild raiding is at a set time, it's pretty easy to schedule two hours or so and get your wife to agree.
Always remember - family comes first.
Edit: Adjusted aggro probability to reflect TheJohan's accurate thoughts on cumulative time.
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Post by
Synectics
Tips to deal with wife aggro once triggered:
... etc ...
I LOL'd.
My wife plays WoW. She was a mixed breed cheerleader / track superstar in high school, though also played Civilization 2 like a pro (and I do mean pro -- China didn't have crap on her). So when I picked up WoW, I thought she'd naturally give it a go.
It took a while, and a lot of, "That looks so stupid." But eventually, I found her sitting at the computer going, "What's your login info, I want to make a character."
Really, if there's any sort of inclinations towards video games, your wife will probably want to eventually check it out. If not, you've really gotta explain that WoW is a hobby, and all the above stuff people have mentioned.
Most importantly:
I know most people don't understand the whole "subscription fee" thing. Point out that $15 / month is a hell of a lot cheaper than going to the movies every weekend -- hell, it's cheaper than just one weekend at the movies, and WoW can be an hour of entertainment a night (or more, of course ^_^ )
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Post by
Squishalot
Actually, it's funny, I play Human, and the girlfriend wants to make a pretty-boy Belf....
So she's got a Nelf druid for now to get herself started, and I'll help her set up a Belf Pally or something on another server some other time.
Post by
TheJohan
Im also having a bit of trouble with the miss.. I try to play when she is watching her shows, like "House" and similar. Thats usually OK with her, but she whines a bit that im not in the couch with her.
MY biggest problem is that she does NOT have any particular hobbies, she hates Harry Potter, and the only videogame she ever liked was SMB3. (Uhm... Super Mario Bros. 3, for those of you who are too young.)
So every single time i sit at my computer, be it reading the newssites or playing WoW, i "abandon" her.
My second biggest problem is that i zone out. I get in the zone so fast and so deep... "Uhu. Shure. Yea. Ok." does not always cut it when she tries to have a conversation with me.. And thats fuel to the fire.
But chores are actually a very good idea. "Hey honey, if i clean the dishes, i can play for a bit?" The chore-reward-system works nearly every time.
Keep in mind tho: The time you spend at the computer makes her angry and or unhappy. The angry/time ratio is cumulative. Spending 10 minutes with WoW is 4 (four!) times as bad as spending 5 minutes. Altho at these low levels of angry, it doesnt really matter. But when you spend 3-4 hours nonstop playing, the angry-levels are getting dangerously high. Ventilating the angry from your wife/girlfriend really helps. Take breaks once in a while, and have some "wifetime" in between heroics. I know this is very hard when raiding, but.. Taking 10 minutes for talk, bringing her something to drink (and maybe even a sandwich) keeps her angry-level down, and you can keep on playing for a while more. I recomend taking atleast 5-10 minutes wifetime on every hour of play.
Post by
Squishalot
I'd actually recommend a bit more than 5-10 minutes, to be honest. Possibly like drinking - one hour on, one hour off, etc.
Im also having a bit of trouble with the miss.. I try to play when she is watching her shows, like "House" and similar. Thats usually OK with her, but she whines a bit that im not in the couch with her.
Simple solution - buy a laptop =) I use a decently powered laptop and run in windowed mode, so that if necessary, I can easily do things for the girlfriend at the same time (which will inevitably come up - "Can you look this up please? You've got the computer right there!")
If she's not watching shows, what does she do? Watching TV dramas is just as 'hobby'-ish as playing WoW is. The key thing is to spend it in the same area and the same room. My gf enjoys watching Masterchef, and chatting about it in a life room with her food blogging buddies on her laptop. I'll plonk next to her and level my fishing and cooking while watching the same xD
What I've found is that playing next to them, and being seen to be 'together' while doing separate things, is that they'll start to take an interest in what you're doing. During ad breaks, at some point, they're going to look over and ask "so what is it that you're doing in there?" - and you suddenly have an opening to get her interested in the game. At the very least, it's an opportunity to interact with her and prove that the game isn't sucking you away from her, which is all she's worried about, at the end of the day.
Post by
TheJohan
Squish: Well, that only leaves the zoneproblem. I have a hard time tanking heavy encounters when im not in the zone, and i have a REALLY hard time going in and out of the zone. But i guess i'll have to work on it.
To OP: MMORPGs are not the
DEVIL
, altho i understand your wife beeing conserned.
I've also played a fair bit of text-based mmorpgs (totally addicted for about 7 years), and they are (in my oppinion) way more addictive than WoW. Mostly because the playerbase is sooo much smaller. Because of that you get so much more intimate, and your absence is more likely to be noted. If your in a big guild (or not in a guild at all), this is probably not an issue. Its much easier to walk away from WoW either way. Atleast for me.
At the very least, it's an opportunity to interact with her and prove that the game isn't sucking you away from her, which is all she's worried about, at the end of the day.
^this. The last bit. Most wives/girlfriends are jelaous about you spending more time at the computer than with them, so the computer will always be the
DEVIL
to them, or atleast untill they understand why you spend time there, and that you'll still be there for them when they really need you.
Post by
Squishalot
Zone is fine - just learn to say "hold on, give me a minute..." as opposed to "yes, sure whatever *nod mindlessly*".
The difference in the message it sends:
"What you're saying is important to me, so I want to concentrate on it fully once I'm not distracted any more"
vs
"I'm not actually paying attention to what you're saying, but it'll shut you up if I agree with you"
Post by
TheJohan
*ahem* Please dont write funny posts douring workhours. It really cramps my style laughing out loud at the office.
At the time, choosing what to answer isnt really an option, since i really dont hear what she says. Nothing sticks. I hear her talking, but i completly ignore it. And its not by choise, its a habit i have from beeing the bigger brother in a family of 5. I have taken "focus" to entierly new levels. I blank out most things going on around me, save fires and people entering the front door.
I really dont like my own behaviour, and im trying hard to change back to beeing able to multitask while playing.
Edit: Spelling
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