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Post by
OverZealous
Well, I guess I'm single now
>.>
Post by
ElhonnaDS
Oh no- what happened?
Post by
Interest
I keep #$%^ing getting nostalgic about Wowhead.
Where can I find Lugburz and Minamo these days?
Well hello Molf.
Post by
Kristopher
I keep #$%^ing getting nostalgic about Wowhead.
Where can I find Lugburz and Minamo these days?
Facebook.Well, I guess I'm single now
>.>
:(
Post by
Haxzor
Didn't I have you on steam at some point? Apologies if I removed you.
Not surprised about Luggy, I think the last time I spoke to him he was heading off to college?
What about Laihendi as of late?
WELL look who it is
Post by
240140
This post was from a user who has deleted their account.
Post by
Adamsm
Well, I guess I'm single now
>.>
Ouch, what happened?
Post by
Interest
Bleh. Morning again.
Post by
ElhonnaDS
D'awwww
Also, Interest- how's your head?
Post by
Interest
D'awwww
Also, Interest- how's your head?
Better. I just got up early to get Darkmoon Rabbit only to discover realm restarts
DESPAWN
it.
So I went to sleep again. I didn't drink enough for a hangover.
Post by
ElhonnaDS
Last night you were like "Uggghhh, my head" in the Hunter's Lodge. I thought that was a pretty good indication you were fairly intoxicated.
Post by
Interest
Last night you were like "Uggghhh, my head" in the Hunter's Lodge. I thought that was a pretty good indication you were fairly intoxicated.
That was more from writing the blog article than from drinks.
Post by
OverZealous
@Elhonna, Kris, Elura and Adams: Well, it was a bit stupid, really. We had decided that we'd take a trip to London in November (no tickets booked or anything, yet), but the head coach of the national swim team approached me and wondered if I wanted to come to Dubai for a swimming competition 15-19th of November, and me and Julia were supposed to leave on the 19th. I tentatively told the head coach that I probably wanted to, he interpreted that as a "Hell yes", she heard about it and was really freaking pissed. It was a misunderstanding, really, because I'd never said yes, but she and I both know that I also never would have said no. She, or we, decided that it was for the best if we didn't stay together any more until I could decide what exactly I wanted to do most.
I feel like a jerk, but I guess I had it coming.
Post by
Patty
Well, I guess I'm single now
>.>
Did she find out about your super-secret swimmer orgy?
.. I was decidedly close.
Post by
hatman555
Any
Parson
Fans in the building?
Cheers,
Hat
Post by
Interest
@Elhonna, Kris, Elura and Adams: Well, it was a bit stupid, really. We had decided that we'd take a trip to London in November (no tickets booked or anything, yet), but the head coach of the national swim team approached me and wondered if I wanted to come to Dubai for a swimming competition 15-19th of November, and me and Julia were supposed to leave on the 19th. I tentatively told the head coach that I probably wanted to, he interpreted that as a "Hell yes", she heard about it and was really freaking pissed. It was a misunderstanding, really, because I'd never said yes, but she and I both know that I also never would have said no. She, or we, decided that it was for the best if we didn't stay together any more until I could decide what exactly I wanted to do most.
I feel like a jerk, but I guess I had it coming.
Well that's decidedly lame.
Post by
ElhonnaDS
I wouldn't say you had it coming. I have made plans with my significant other, and then had a business trip come up and had to change them. If this is a career you plan on, and we're talking about a big opportunity, then there's no reason I can think of that she couldn't have been alright with leaving on the 20th or 21st, and either shortening the trip or pushing the end off 2 days as well- especially if the tickets weren't booked yet. It sounds to me like she's being a bit selfish, and kind of immature.
In an adult relationship, when things come up that are necessary or important, couples work around them. If someone has obligations, or has ambitions that occasionally require time commitments, the other person doesn't require that their partner prove they love them by sacrificing important things in their own life to accommodate them rather than cause minor inconveniences. If someone tells you that you can either be with them, or go on your fancy schmancy business trip and keep your job, or train for your dumb old Olympics, they're being childish and really unrealistic. It's one thing if this is a recurring theme, and you never have time for her, or if you were blowing it off for some minor thing, but it sounds like this is a big opportunity.
I wasn't there, so I don't know how it went, but if my boyfriend said he had some major thing for work, or family, or because he was competing internationally in a sport, and it required rescheduling a vacation by a day or two, I wouldn't even blink about doing it. Sorry your ex is immature.
Don't make choices that will hinder your life's goals or ambitions to make another person happy, especially if they are asking you to do it rather than change a day or two for a vacation, or spend time doing something that doesn't have any specific long-term importance, or an activity that could easily be rescheduled when the major conflict could not. Chances are, someone who asks for that isn't going to be a good fit long term anyway, and then you're left with no relationship, and none of the things you gave up to try to make them happy.
Post by
Adamsm
@Elhonna, Kris, Elura and Adams: Well, it was a bit stupid, really. We had decided that we'd take a trip to London in November (no tickets booked or anything, yet), but the head coach of the national swim team approached me and wondered if I wanted to come to Dubai for a swimming competition 15-19th of November, and me and Julia were supposed to leave on the 19th. I tentatively told the head coach that I probably wanted to, he interpreted that as a "Hell yes", she heard about it and was really freaking pissed. It was a misunderstanding, really, because I'd never said yes, but she and I both know that I also never would have said no. She, or we, decided that it was for the best if we didn't stay together any more until I could decide what exactly I wanted to do most.
I feel like a jerk, but I guess I had it coming.
So, she didn't consider that you guys could have put off the trip for a day or two after you came back, then head out again? I wouldn't say you were a jerk or had it coming in this case OZ; I see a bit of an over reaction there.
Post by
OverZealous
Thanks guys, I really appreciate it.
Post by
Kristopher
@Elhonna, Kris, Elura and Adams: Well, it was a bit stupid, really. We had decided that we'd take a trip to London in November (no tickets booked or anything, yet), but the head coach of the national swim team approached me and wondered if I wanted to come to Dubai for a swimming competition 15-19th of November, and me and Julia were supposed to leave on the 19th. I tentatively told the head coach that I probably wanted to, he interpreted that as a "Hell yes", she heard about it and was really freaking pissed. It was a misunderstanding, really, because I'd never said yes, but she and I both know that I also never would have said no. She, or we, decided that it was for the best if we didn't stay together any more until I could decide what exactly I wanted to do most.
I feel like a jerk, but I guess I had it coming.
So, she didn't consider that you guys could have put off the trip for a day or two after you came back, then head out again? I wouldn't say you were a jerk or had it coming in this case OZ; I see a bit of an over reaction there.
Yeah what Adam said... I don't really think this is your fault.
I'm being a bit of a hypocrite here, because of the fact that I changed my class schedule to fit in a class for my romantic interest (Albeit I only dropped one class that was remotely interesting to me, and actually gained 2.5 that I'm liking so far), but Don't make choices that will hinder your life's goals or ambitions to make another person happy, especially if they are asking you to do it rather than change a day or two for a vacation, or spend time doing something that doesn't have any specific long-term importance, or an activity that could easily be rescheduled when the major conflict could not. Chances are, someone who asks for that isn't going to be a good fit long term anyway, and then you're left with no relationship, and none of the things you gave up to try to make them happy.
is completely true. If you really want her, after what has transpired, consider talking to her about changing the day of the trip. If she is unwilling to, well, you'll probably see where it'll end up.
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