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Weekly Debate #7: Parenting
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MyTie
When a parent bangs a kid up hard enough to show bruises (which, honestly, doesn't take that much to do. Bruises on a fragile kid are easy to get), one has to wonder if the parent still has the right intention in mind.
I agree with everything Hungryshadow said. It makes me sick to see the things that some parents do to thier kids. I respect my child's personal space as much as I would any other adult. If I decide it is necessary to invade that personal space for punishment, it is done jointly (both parents), and the logic is discussed with the child.
Never ever beat your child or make them fear you might.
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Thronarr- You are missing consequences from your parenting equasion. Parents need to be able to balance things, and take things in perspective, that is true. One part of that is to instill an understanding of consequences in your kid. Your method of parenting has no real teeth to it. When being nice and friendly failed, you would have to take into consideration alternative methods.
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Spanking =/= beating. An open-hand spank on the hand or butt is sufficeint. A closed-fisted hit is under the beating category. Spanking is also not a first resort. You also don't have to be angry to spank your child either.
IMO, spanking the rear doesn't do anything. The cheek of the face should be the prime target. Although, the humiliation aspect of being spanked on the behind would definitely affect me.
humiliation is definately not a good parenting tool
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Well, you can't not discipline a kid, otherwise the kid will turn into a &*!@#$ bag who thinks it can get whatever it wants. I mean, I don't like the idea of hitting a kid, but if it gets to the point where either the kid thinks it can do whatever he or she wants and having to discipline the kid, I think spanking his or her butt is fine. Then again, that might be a parental fail if it let it come down to that.
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ASHelmy
To the people thinking that hitting a child without making it bleed or break anything is fine, seriously? Get a life.
Hitting your child won't only learn it that hitting someone is normal, it will also teach it NOT to respect any other means of teaching except beating.
Also, to the people that say that after dialogue and "spanking" and blabla, you can proceed to hitting, then you fail x 2, not only for hitting a child, but also because you can't convince a youngling with a simple dialogue.
My father never hit me, in addition, he always made a dialogue with me for a serious subject. He tought to me that violence is not a way to achieve anything, it's just a way to make a situation even worse.
I was hit once by my mother, and I did nothing more than silence myself without showing any feelings. The second time I got hit by her, I did only one thing, and that was to hit back. An act I'm not proud of, neither did I regret it.
What did I learn that day? Violence for violence. But when my father talked to me peacefully and with patience he achieved what my mother could not by hand.
A child is like a sponge. Whatever you give it, it'll be absorbed. Have a talk with him/her, earn their respect, and you created a Human. Hit it, beat it for any reason, release your anger upon it, and you're about to create a piece of #$%^ on the upcoming community. Like you.
No one said hitting after spanking, I think we are using the word hitting and spanking interchangeably in this thread. Your father never hit you, so you grew up to attack people you just met and hitting your mother? :S Thanks for proving my point of view :) =).
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